Uninzi lwabantu luyazibuza ukuba kutheni iintaka zothando kunye nezo zothando zintyiloza, kwaye ezi ntaka zihlala zingaculi, kodwa zikhupha isandi esifana nesihlwitha.
Into ekufuneka niyazi kukuba akunakwenzeka ukunqanda intaka ukuba ingangxoli, njengoko oku kungokwemvelo.
Into onokuyenza kukuqonda kancinci ukuba kutheni besenza loo nto, ukuze ungakhathazeki okanye uxinzelelo ngenkolelo yokuba ukuba ngaba baphosakele ngokuchanekileyo.
Iintaka zothando zitswina ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo ezinje:
- Ingxolo eqhelekileyo kunye nendalo yohlobo lwayo
- Bonwabile kakhulu kwaye banomoya olungileyo
- Bafuna ukufumana ingqalelo yakho
- Bayayoyika, bayoyika, kukho umntu okanye into eboyikisayo
- Baziva bebi ngesizathu esithile
- Balambile okanye banxaniwe kwaye abanako ukufikelela koku
- Bayadika
- Into ebaphazamisayo okanye ebahlaselayo
Ukongeza ukukhala ngenxa yezi zizathu, zihlala zihamba nezinye iindlela zokuziphatha nangaphezulu kwengxolo, kulwimi lomzimba apho kufuneka ujonge khona.
- Umzekelo, kwimeko yokuba into ibenzakalise okanye ibakhathaze ukongeza ekungxoliseni, baya kubamba icala lomzimba wabo okanye baya kudikwa kunesiqhelo.
- Ukuba kukho into eyoyikisayo, ecaphukisayo okanye ebahlaselayo, baya kuzama ukuzikhusela ukuze babe kwindawo yokuhlaselwa
- Okokugqibela, ukuba bonwabile baya kudlala nje, banyuke babhabhe.