Fumana yonke into ofuna ukuyazi malunga nenkqubo yokwamkelwa komntwana eBrookhaven. Funda ngeemfuno, amanyathelo ekufuneka uwalandele, kunye nezibonelelo ezikhoyo kwabo banqwenela ukuthatha kwesi sixeko.
Ungamthatha njani umntwana eBrookhaven?
Ubusazi na ukuba kwibarbecue okanye kwincoko nje elula unokuba ngutata okanye umama? Abaninzi baye bamangaliswa yile nkcazelo, ingebubo kwaphela. Awukwazi ukucinga ukuba bangaphi abaye baqalisa incoko kwaye bamkelwa. Oku kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba kufuneka wenze isicelo kuphela. Yinyani leyo? Ewe yiyo. Thatha uvavanyo, qala ukuthetha nabani na kwaye uzinike ithuba lokubazi. Abanye babodwa kakhulu okanye abanantsapho. Emva kokuba uvavanye umviwa, buza umbuzo onyanzelekileyo: "Ngaba ufuna ukuba ngunyana okanye intombi yam?" Ngokwendlela abasabela ngayo, unokuqhubeka uzama.
Ukuba unikwe ngokuqinileyo "hayi," vele uhambe. Kodwa, ukuba bathi ewe, halala, uye wamkela! Ngoku, mbuze ukuba ungamnika na igama okanye ufuna ukuza kuhlala kowenu. Le meko isebenza kakuhle kakhulu ngabakwishumi elivisayo kunye nabantu abadala, kodwa umthatha njani umntwana okanye usana? Qhubeka ufunda...
Yintoni onokuyenza ukuze uthabathe umntwana okanye umntwana?
Xa uthatha umntwana okanye usana, kubalulekile ukuba ukhethe kwaye uqiniseke ukuba sisigqibo esifanelekileyo. Qwalasela ukuba kukho iimpawu zomzimba ezifana nezakho okanye zeqabane lakho, vavanya indlela abaziphatha ngayo kwaye uqiniseke ukuba abonakalanga.
Kubalulekile ukuba nomonde, ekubeni abantwana neentsana zingakwazi ukuvakalisa iimfuno zabo ngendlela efanayo neyabantu abadala. Ukuba awunawo umonde ofunekayo, unokuphela unxunguphele kwaye ulahle umntwana omncinane esitratweni.
Ukuba unomdla wokuthatha umntwana ongamzalanga abe ngowakho, fumanisa ukuba unabazali okanye ukhe wahoywa ngabanye abantu ngaphambili. Olu lwazi luya kukunceda uqonde imbali yayo kwaye wenze indawo efanelekileyo yophuhliso lwayo.
Ngaba ngumbono olungileyo ukwamkela?
Kuxhomekeke kwinto eyenzekayo xa uyenza, kuba yonke into ayisoloko iphetha kakuhle. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ube namava amnandi okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, uvumela isiphithiphithi singene ebomini bakho.
Ukuba umntwana unembonakalo ekhangayo, oku kunokutshintsha. Njengoko usiya umazi, uya kuqonda ukuba ibingumbono olungileyo na ukumthatha. Ngokuchasene noko, unokuba nethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo lokufumana umntwana oyisigidi kwaye isimo sakho kumdlalo siya kutshintsha, nantoni na inokwenzeka!
Abantu abaninzi banamava amahle kwaye bamkele abantwana, iintsana kunye nabantu abadala. Kodwa, oku kunokuba nemiphumo emibi. Kubekho iingxelo zokutshiswa kwezindlu, ukukhuthuzwa kunye namatheko enziwa kwimizi yabazali abakhuliswe ngabazali abaphantse bazicima ii-akhawunti zabadlali.
Sisigqibo sakho, akukho ndlela yokwazi ukuba iya kuba licebo elilungileyo okanye elibi, njengokuba ubomi kufuneka ube namava.