E ʻike i nā mea a pau e pono ai ʻoe e ʻike e pili ana i ke kaʻina hana hoʻokipa ma Brookhaven. E aʻo e pili ana i nā koi, nā ʻanuʻu e hahai ai, a me nā kumuwaiwai i loaʻa i ka poʻe makemake e hāpai i kēia kūlanakauhale.
Pehea e lawe ai ma Brookhaven?
Ua ʻike paha ʻoe mai kahi barbecue a i ʻole kamaʻilio maʻalahi hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i makua kāne a makuahine paha? Nui ka poʻe i kāhāhā i kēia ʻike, ʻaʻole ia he wahaheʻe. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo i ka nui o ka poʻe i hoʻomaka i ke kamaʻilio ʻana a ua hāpai ʻia. Loaʻa kēia no ka mea pono ʻoe e hana i ke noi. He ʻoiaʻiʻo? ʻae ʻo ia nō. E ho'āʻo, e hoʻomaka e kamaʻilio me kekahi a hāʻawi iā ʻoe iho i ka manawa e ʻike ai iā lākou. He kaʻawale loa kekahi a ʻaʻohe ʻohana. Ke loiloi ʻoe i ka moho, e nīnau i ka nīnau obligatory: "Makemake ʻoe e lilo i keiki kāne a kaikamahine paha?" Wahi a ka pane, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomau i ka hoʻāʻo.
Inā ua hāʻawi ʻia ʻoe i kahi paʻa "ʻaʻole," e hele wale. Akā, inā ʻae lākou, mahalo, ua ʻae ʻoe! I kēia manawa, e nīnau iā ia inā hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi iā ia i inoa a i ʻole makemake ʻo ia e noho i kou home. Hana maikaʻi kēia ʻano hana me nā ʻōpio a me nā pākeke, akā pehea ʻoe e hānai ai i kahi keiki a pēpē paha? E hoʻomau i ka heluhelu…
He aha kāu e hana ai e hānai i kahi keiki a pēpē paha?
I ka hāpai ʻana i kahi keiki a pēpē paha, pono e koho a hoʻomaopopo ʻo ia ka hoʻoholo kūpono. E nānā inā loaʻa nā ʻano kino e like me kāu a i ʻole kāu hoa, e loiloi i kā lākou ʻano a e hōʻoia ʻaʻole lākou i hao ʻia.
Pono e hoʻomanawanui, no ka mea, ʻaʻole hiki i nā keiki a me nā pēpē ke hōʻike i ko lākou mau pono e like me nā mākua. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻomanawanui, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopau i ka huhū a haʻalele i ke keiki liʻiliʻi ma ke alanui.
Inā makemake ʻoe e hānai i kahi keiki, e ʻike inā he mau mākua kona a i ʻole i mālama ʻia e nā poʻe ʻē aʻe ma mua. E kōkua kēia ʻike iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i kona mōʻaukala a hana i kahi ʻano kūpono no kona hoʻomohala ʻana.
He manaʻo maikaʻi paha ka lawe ʻana?
Aia ia i ka mea e hana ai ke hana ʻoe, no ka mea, ʻaʻole pau maikaʻi nā mea a pau. Malia paha ua loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi ʻike leʻaleʻa a i ʻole, ua hoʻokuʻu ʻoe i ka haunaele i kou ola.
Inā he helehelena maikaʻi ke keiki, hiki ke loli kēia. I kou ʻike ʻana iā ia, e ʻike ʻoe inā he manaʻo maikaʻi paha ia e hāpai. ʻO ka mea ʻē aʻe, hiki paha iā ʻoe ke laki i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi keiki miliona a e loli kou kūlana i ka pāʻani, hiki i kekahi mea!
Nui nā poʻe i loaʻa nā ʻike maikaʻi a hāpai i nā keiki, nā pēpē a me nā pākeke. Akā, hiki i kēia ke loaʻa nā hopena maikaʻi ʻole. Ua loaʻa nā lono no ka puhi ʻana i nā hale, nā pōā a me nā pāʻina i mālama ʻia i loko o nā hale o nā mākua hānai i aneane e hoʻopau i nā moʻolelo o nā mea pāʻani.
ʻO kāu hoʻoholo, ʻaʻohe ala e ʻike ai inā he manaʻo maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha ia, e like me ke ola āu e ʻike ai.